tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7204117.post5457571970530343616..comments2023-09-01T20:30:28.061+09:00Comments on Illahee's blog: a good decisionillaheehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08109064612619771372noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7204117.post-19252205569784911522007-08-07T17:50:00.000+09:002007-08-07T17:50:00.000+09:00thanks for the comment gwen.i don't mean to sound ...thanks for the comment gwen.<BR/><BR/>i don't mean to sound as though all japanese MIL are like mine. she's just a bit...nutty i guess. not a bad person at all, she just didn't want an american for a DIL. *sigh*illaheehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08109064612619771372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7204117.post-83550887074041741272007-08-05T03:27:00.000+09:002007-08-05T03:27:00.000+09:00Um, I just stumbled on your Blog and found it real...Um, I just stumbled on your Blog and found it really interesting. Something tells me that Japanese men are going to be off limits to me if that is how the inlaws are. LOL<BR/><BR/>I was a Muslima for a while, and did not realize how much danger I could have been in had I married an Arab and gone to his country with him.<BR/><BR/>This culture thing is really interesting. I wish you the best.<BR/><BR/>GwenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7204117.post-42842590137539224862007-08-02T19:24:00.000+09:002007-08-02T19:24:00.000+09:00oh gina, my MIL has done that to me, too! not eve...oh gina, my MIL has done that to me, too! not every time she visits, but it bugs me to no end when she takes my shoes. and...the shoes she brings are slip ons so it's not like she can't just slip into her own shoes! LOLillaheehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08109064612619771372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7204117.post-35755550178293613222007-08-02T11:50:00.000+09:002007-08-02T11:50:00.000+09:00Yup, I'm in the same boat as Sarah, I don't think ...Yup, I'm in the same boat as Sarah, I don't think my MIL and I will ever get passed "pleasant" either. <BR/><BR/>For the most part, I can just ignore the bad and smile about it. Or we just get along and stay in "polite mode" until the end of a visit, but every *every* once in a while, I will truly get bent out of shape about something she says or something (hey I'm not perfect, Im human and heck yes, sometimes words can wear on ya). And then, it's on! Ha ha ha. But for the most part I try to stay civil and as polite as possible.<BR/><BR/>If it makes you feel any better Illahee. I woulda been upset about the parasol too. In fact that is something my MIL would totally do to me! For what it's worth. My MIL's thing is my shoes. She comes wearing her shoes obviously. But when she stays the night at our place, she will always slip on mine, doesn't matter what for, she will find a reason to wear mine. Say we all go for a walk with the boys. I will look all over the genkan, shoe closet, you name it. And come to find out she left wearing my walking shoes! What's up with that? We go onto the back terrace to eat. Again, I will look high and low for my flip flops I placed in the genkan because I was about to slip them on, I will run to the kitchen for say a napkin for one of the kids and *poof* again they are on her feet. And she has total "yucko feet and toes" btw! I have complained to my DH. He says if he mentions it, it could ruin the mood of the trip/her stay. So I say nothing. And I quietly boil over with anger, until she leaves. Ha ha ha.Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02427544303742999100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7204117.post-8488703485281556562007-08-02T00:17:00.000+09:002007-08-02T00:17:00.000+09:00I think my MIL has finally realized that she canno...I think my MIL has finally realized that she cannot get to me. We've hit the "whatever she says bounces off me and sticks on her" phase of our relationship and that has allowed me to be more pleasant with her. But we will never get past "pleasant" as long as I live.<BR/><BR/>Heidi - she would gloat if you locked yourself up, wouldn't she?! Thanks for the laugh! I really needed it.Sarah@mommyinjapanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01461367282447656731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7204117.post-34088351564957594362007-08-01T15:06:00.000+09:002007-08-01T15:06:00.000+09:00That should read as "lock myself out".That should read as "lock myself out".Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17646487077122485597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7204117.post-6776124531812000602007-08-01T15:05:00.000+09:002007-08-01T15:05:00.000+09:00I was just going to suggest that a spare set of ke...I was just going to suggest that a spare set of keys be left in your MIL's place for future incidents when I read your last para, and totally understand it. <BR/><BR/>My MIL would take great pleasure and gloat if I were to lock myself up too and I would hate to give her that opportunity.<BR/><BR/>As it is, I already felt lousy last week when as she was leaving my house, she said to me "Oh, I heard from Kai (my DS) that there was a big cockroach in your house yesterday". It was the way she said it and the "triumphant" look on her face. Argh!<BR/><BR/>Hugs to you and hope it is smooth-sailing till the end of your pregnancy, at least!Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17646487077122485597noreply@blogger.com