i read this article this morning, and i found it very interesting. i think it's pretty accurate, as far as i know about relationships between japanese men and women. unless a woman marries very young, i think japanese women marry at a later age because they don't want another child to take care of (the husband).
recently an internet friend wrote that it was harder to bring up boys here, because you had to teach them that girls are just as important, just as deserving of respect as they are. this really had an impact on me. of course! that's what seems to be lacking. girls and boys are *told* girls and women can do anything, be anything, but they aren't treated any different as children (my pet peeve here is how little boys are spoiled here.) i mean, just the other day another mother was talking about how she wished she had a girl (she has two boys) to help her in a few years when her sons were busy with school and studying for exams. i had to take yoshi to task just over the weekend when he said that our kitchen is small and when sasha is older and wants to help in the kitchen.... oh?! and what about hiro?!
i also read this article (from a week ago) this morning. it's almost as though people are trying to find a reason why young japanese aren't marrying and having babies. women don't want to baby men (husbands). people live with their parents until they marry (and some men still live with their parents after they marry...). marriage is a desirable notion, but not decided lightly these days, if you are a woman.
good for them, i say.
April 18, 2024
8 hours ago
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Funny you should write this today. this morning near the yochien I saw a van, somehow related to education but not exactly sure what the company does/sells, that said "Boys be ambitious." I know this is a famous quote by some stupid old dead guy, but it annoys me to no end. I used to see that written everywhere and always thought, "so what should girls be?"
My son is only 2 and daughter 5 but MIL and I have already gotten into it about boy/girl things. I only see bigger and uglier battles to come. I certainly hope I can raise my son better than she raised her three as I don't want him to end up being someone's giant adopted child mislabeled as "husband."
when i came to japan, the song 'girls be ambitious' was playing all the time. an answer to that?
and sherry, you always make me laugh. 'mislabeled as "husband".' bwahahaha! so true!!
I think it's up to couples to make their own agreements when they get married. As i entered into marriage with my own japanese husband i made sure that we both agreed on some very important things firstly, women and men are equal, and our kids would never be treated any differently according to their gender. Thankfully even though my husband grew up with some what traditional parents, he doesn't share their views and thinks men can cook and sew (he can), and women can be whatever they want to be. :)
If anything i love looking after my hubby and sometimes call him my baby just because he is such a darling. :)
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