tommy was still sick on wednesday, so i took him to the doctor (i am not cheesed off about this). the doctor determined that it is not a cold, since he doesn't have a fever (or any other symptom for that matter. why is it when you are sick to your stomach--or have the big D--doctors here think you have a cold? this is not something we're taught in the US, and makes the doctor look like a quack! once, many years ago, i went to the doctor because i gave myself food poisoning (thank goodness i was cooking for just myself!). after being 'examined', minimally questioned and about to get some stomach medicine, i coughed. a little cough, almost an 'ahem'. the doctor looked at me and said, 'you have a cold?!' uh, yeah, like two weeks ago, i was over it except for a bit of a cough, but he declared that i had a cold and gave me cold medicine. boy, was i ever pissed off! oops, went on a tangent there and got a bit miffed. ahem.) so we got some meds for his tummy troubles. he still had some D yesterday, but i think it's improving. he's drinking lots of aquarius and running around being two, so i don't think he's seriously ill, though he did sleep for most of yesterday afternoon.
speaking of yesterday, i finally got sasha to the cattle call three year check. i forgot to go in september, forgot or didn't have time to go in october, had something else to do in november and then forgot/kids napped through the one in december. seriously, i don't have time for this shit. it's a waste of time and they do it at 2 in the afternoon, PRIME nap time! now, not all children (esp. three year olds) take naps, but my children do. (you may recall that i missed one of tommy's 18-month checks and complained about it then.) my problem is the community people who run this thing call yoshi and pester him. so, he says we'll go to the next one ('we' being me and the child in question, plus any sibling(s)), then he comes home and tells me we have to go. sheesh. i know that these sorts of things can be good for some people who don't really know anything about their kids, or about illnesses or whatever, but i think that if there was something wrong with my child, i would know about it and take him or her to the doctor! just because we missed this thingy doesn't mean it's the end of the world. *sigh*
so, we're supposed to bring some urine (not going to happen), give them an eye and an ear test. uh, ok. didn't do that either. after we got there someone checked her (laughable. but she is 'normal', whatever.) then we talked to some volunteer health person and did a little check (mostly for vocab and recognition. and i have an aside here, my kids don't understand the word 'shape'. they know circle, square, etc., but they don't know how to answer the question, what shape is this? (hm, i may be too general, i'm pretty sure *hiro* can answer that question now, but not when he was three.) so when we asked sasha what shape is this, she didn't understand. and when i said, 'what's this?', she said the color. when i asked her, 'where is the circle?', she pointed to the circle....anyway, just seemed like a weird way to ask about shapes.) the health volunteer person asked about sasha panicking in new situations. it was kind of...odd...yoshi had filled out the at-home questionnaire and had put in a few notes, so i don't know if he mentioned how attached sasha is to me and shy around strangers, but the way the woman kept pushing the question was weird.
then, it was off to the weight, height, pediatrician and dentist room. i watched while sasha was weighed, and she was nearly 15 kilos. no surprises there. i didn't catch the height, but i think she's nearly 95cm. then perfectly normal at the pedi (even though we didn't have urine, but the doctor says, should be fine, i think.) then to the dentist where we find sasha has two cavities! wha-! great, this means a mini lecture from another health volunteer, where i nod and uh-uh, whatever. i am not happy, though, because we took the kids to the dentist last september and even though we asked about the strange brownish spots on her teeth (one between her front two teeth, where the cavities are, and another on a canine, which is probably mostly scaling) we were told she was fine, everything fine...ugh. guess i won't be going back to that dentist. *sigh* poor sasha.
then, lastly a final sit-down with a health volunteer who could speak some english. some idiot had marked sasha's weight as 18.6 kilos, so was lectured a bit about that. i just looked on in a bit of shock, WTF ever, i do not want to be there any longer. this young lady insisted in english that they just want to help, please let them help, we want to help you. wut? yes yes, nod the head, can i have the boshi-techo back and avoid the food booth at the front door (with recipe hand-outs i DO NOT WANT). had to phone the school and say we wouldn't be home so please keep hiro on the bus and i will pick him up there. screaming match between sasha and tommy until they finally fall asleep, get to the school before hiro. *deep breath* make sense, illahee. finally get hiro and drive home and immediately weigh sasha who is merely 14 kilos. am pissed.
i check her boshi-techo and yes, they got her weight wrong. also, put her age down as three years, one month. uh, don't know math much? i know this is a little thing but we certainly don't want to start on weigh issues now, esp. since i think she's of average weight and hiro is under weight. but what truly pisses me off is they kept after yoshi for months about going to this stupid thing AND THEY CAN'T EVEN FUCKING DO IT RIGHT!!! ahem. yes, quite cheesed off for a colossal waste of time.
i'm also a bit cheesed about the, 'we want to help you.' part. i don't need help now that she's three. i needed help when she was a newborn (or any of my children, for that matter.) i was alone and had no help when they were babies. now that they can walk and talk i don't need so much help. more free time, maybe, but not help. it may seem weird to get pissed of about someone wanting to help you, but it felt like, too little, too late. phew.
November 19, 2024
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I never go to those things. The only ones I went to were for polio vacs because to my knowledge it is the only way to get it. In the city I lived in previously, when my DD was small, they never contacted me when I didn't go.
Where I am now they showed up at buzzing at the entrance gate about the 18 month old one I missed for my son. I told them to piss off and refused to let them in the building. They mailed me another set of papers and asked me to fill them out and mail them back. I threw them away. Frankly the questions infuriate me. It is none of their business what time my kid goes to bed or how much tv, if any, he watches. And I can't be bothered to write the answers they want to hear and play the game they play, you know?
This past fall I ignored the 3 year old check. Waiting to see if they show up again or if they have learned their lesson the first time. If they called my husband and complained about it I would be up at city hall raising all kinds of crazy foreigner hell on them.
Ugh -- I feel your pain!!!!! In fact, reading your post made my blood boil -- I have been in your shoes so many times, though not about these cattle calls, because I always skipped them.
My kids got regular dental check-ups at their elementary school. Just ONE MONTH after the school have my daughter a "Congratulations on your perfect smile!" certificate, we moved to SF, went to an American dentist...who pointed out FOUR BIG cavities to me, all clearly visible.
I am overweight, and my kids are all skinny. So I really, REALLY resent all the health workers' "are you really feeding them properly?" questions, because they seem to imply that big fat gaijin mama is hogging all the yummy food for herself. Or maybe I'm just paranoid -- ya think? Ha.....
Ugh I hate the cattle call checks too, and I think it's only going to get worse the older Ash gets. The last one we went to Ash weighed the most and the Obachan screamed out "he's the biggest baby we've seen today!!!!" Thanks lady, like my gaijiness wasn't making me stand out enough!
I think I'll keep going with Ash, just because I am pretty clueless with lots of stuff but by the sencond munchkin I can see myself just not going.
I'm glad we don't have any little kids anymore...I'll have enough to deal with when we move to Japan. Sheesh! They better not make ME come in for "old fart" checks because they won't like me very much..lol
yeah, i tried to tell yoshi to tell them to fuck off, but he didn't want to do that. too nice, i guess. *sigh* and so, i am tortured. but only one left, with tommy next year. i'll try to remember to do it ASAP so they won't be bothering us about it.
unless, of course, there's some sort of nonsense before starting elementary school....
Oh you have every right to be angry, I would be too if I were you.
It all sounds like a major pain in the bum.
What a horrible experience! I don't know why these check ups are such a big deal here. They don't really exist in any other countries right? At least you only have one more to go to and hopefully you can get out of it somehow!
Shou had his not so long ago - same thing. Lots of 'homework' and I hadn't read all the shit so was way surprised when we got htere and they asked for some pee. Thankfully some choco bribe and I got about a mm of pee in a cup. Awesome.
The ones here, due to lack of population, aren't too much though. Only about eight other kids doing it and I know half the workers. Hub being in the town office means we can't really skive out of them - alhtough I agree the timing is fuckin terrible. Had to go pick Shou up from kindy during nap time!!
Hey... only eight more sleeps!!
Some other countries do have them, and usually a low mortality rate to go along with it...but as illahee says, that's for all those OTHER mothers who don't seem to know anything about illnesses or when something's wrong.
That said, I failed Lena's 3-year health check. Yup, got chucked out. Turns out she had chicken pox, and I didn't notice. Well, they only turned up that morning, and I thought they were mosquito bites. We got quarantined and sent to the pediatrician's. At least I didn't have to stay for the 'we're only here to help' lecture!
8 more sleeps!!!!
(or, if you count each time we wake up each night, only 50 more sleeps!!!)
Sometimes I think doctors are too quick to prescribe medicine . . . especially for kids. You know what's best for your family. Follow your instincts.
Ummm, yes there is one before elementary school. Not sure how every city does it but my city sent out postcards and had to go to the school a certain day and time. They took the kids off to check them and the moms got lectured for 2 1/2 hours. Only about 20 minutes was useful stuff about supplies for school paying for lunch etc.
My kids kindy has checks but I don't hear much about them or do any for them
I think it must be infuriating to have so many people telling you what to do about your own child. I understand it could be helpful too, but there is a point at which it almost becomes harassment.
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